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Wife Dressing: part 1

Thursday, September 18th, 2008

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This post is for the wives amongst us, and the future wives in the making. 

Wife dressing is many things:
An art.
A science.
A labor of love.
A means of self-expression.
And, above all, a contributing factor to a happy marriage.

Wife dressing begins with the traditional rings for your third finger, left hand. But the wedding ring is only the beginning. When your husband’s eyes light up as he comes in at night, you’re in sad shape if it’s only because he smells dinner cooking.

Most men claim to be indifferent to fashion, if not down-right afraid. They can contemplate outer space without blinking an eye, sacrifice their very lives in defense of our country, or even explore the dark cellar where you’ve heard noises—yet the mention of a shopping trip turns them pale and trembling.

Why? I don’t know.
But one thing is clear, however many times he may mumble inarticulately when you ask his advice he will respond to every facet of wife-dressing whether you’re being the hostess, the maid-of-all-work, or the devastating creature curled up on the sofa with a Midnight Snack for Two.

So how can you serve your husband through your dress?

You will need:
1.    A frank understanding of yourself
2.    A healthy attitude toward your new responsibilities
3.    A willingness to learn and
4.    A buoyant elation about being alive.

All this can be boiled down to one word: Discipline.
Discipline makes you the woman you are. You are you. Not the model in that photo, or the girl beside you in the elevator, or even the gal sitting at the next lunch table. Discipline is the secret to good grooming, no matter your budget. Discipline prevents you from being deluded about the squishing into the wrong size, or buying something just because it’s on sale. Discipline makes you a stickler for details which left unchecked could lead to a catastrophe.

Find part 2 and 3 at Empowered Traditionalist

Smiling: out of style

Wednesday, August 13th, 2008

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When did pouty become beautiful? Girls, it’s time to bring back the smile. I don’t care how many models portray a “sultry-cool” disinterested stare. In real life, it’s the smiles that win the hearts.

Some interesting stats:
-The average woman smiles about 62 times a day!
-A man? Only 8!
-30 minutes of a hearty laugh, your white blood cell count shoots up by 25%, strengthening your disease fighting powers.
- The first thing we notice about people is their eyes, the second thing we notice is their smile.
-people seldom notice old clothes if you wear a big smile
-it happens in a flash but can be remembered for a lifetime
-88% of people (surveyed) said they always remember someone with an especially attractive smile
-guys go crazy over a girls smile
Do:

-Relax- a real smile reveals facial muscles all pointing upward from your jaw right up to your eyebrows, mouth is often open and your eyes are crinkly :-)

-Brighten your teeth in seconds-try a lipstick in true reds, avoid coral or orangey shades…they bring out the yellow.
Don’t:

Trace the outside of your lip-line with pencil. Lay off the lip pencil, it looks fake. Just trace a clear, shimmer highlighter pencil above the cupid’s bow on your upper lip, the reflection makes it look fuller. Well-hydrated lips look fuller.

“Make me Beautiful”- Part 3

Wednesday, January 16th, 2008

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Why? Why are we obsessed with physical beauty?

The answer lies in the self-centered desires resident within the human heart

The message is: If you are beautiful you will be happy and successful, you will be popular among the women, and desirable to the men, You will know lasting intimacy and true love. You will be confident, secure, important and significant. These are all things our heart craves! We long for success, significance, approval…therefore women become obsessed with the attempt to be beautiful.

But it’s a lie. Physical beauty does not ensure happiness.

Princess Diana, was physically beautiful and the most photographed woman in the world. She was a celebrity of unprecedented magnitutde. Yet with the world at her feet, her fairy-tale marriage to Prince Charles ended in divorce, she admitted to frequent bouts of depression, loneliness, ongoing bulimia and several suicide attempts. She went through a number of psycho-therapists but to no avail. And then her life ended in her tragic death.

Even the recent chaotic spiral of superstar Brittney Spears is a witness to the emptiness in such a life.

Physical beauty does not deliver as advertised.
Nancy Leigh Demoss in Lies Women Believe, “the deception that physical beauty is to be esteemed above beauty of the heart…leaves both men and women feeling unattractive, ashamed, embarrassed and hopelessly flawed…the pursuit of physical beauty is invariably an unattainable, elusive goal…it’s always just out of reach.”
“If only…”

We need to remind ourselves -Don’t be squeezed into the mold of this culture “ Why do we have to remind ourselves? Because our tendency is to get sucked right back into this downward cycle.

What we believe determines how we live. We need our minds changed; then our lives, our dreams, our pursuits will follow. I constantly am on the alert, fighting to keep my heart from succumbing to the pressures of this culture. Like a true counterfeit expert, we have to examine the genuine bills so the counterfeits are all the more obvious.

Ask yourself: Has my heart been captivated by this world’s definition of beauty or does true beauty mean something more?

In order to answer this question we need to know

Is there another definition of beauty that we should be focused on?

to be continued.

“Make me Beautiful” Part 2

Tuesday, January 15th, 2008

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…continued from Part 1
What ideal? What standard of beauty by which every woman is to compare herself?

1. Bodies that are perfect without defect. That pretty much eliminates all of us. If you have an unwanted scar or birth mark, if you have skin disease, acne on your face or spider veins on your legs, if your nose is too big, if you are too tall or too short- these are considered defects by our society.
2. To be beautiful you must be young
now most of us are still young…but may I remind you of something? We may be young, but our youthfulness is shortlived! In fact, have any of you been with your grandmother or great gramma recently? Stop and picture her in your mind. Guess what? Yea, someday you will resemble your gramma or great gramma. Now I know that may be difficult for some of you to fathom, but it’s true. It’s a flower that quickly fades-no exceptions
3. Having a perfect figure.You must be the pefect height, have a large bust, skinny waist, shapely legs, all packaged in a thin body. Again, the majority of us , don’t measure up.
Finally,
4. We must have that covergirl face. We must look like the faces on the magazine racks, or this seasons most glamorous model or movie star.

The fashion industry creates a definition of beautiful so narrow that in comparison the majority of women and girls feel ugly and unattractive.

What’s worse is the deception in this industry. Did you know that most of the models you see in the magazines don’t even look like their picture? More than 95% of photographs have been digitally altered.

Click: HERE to see some eye-opening videos…

Another intriguing clip: Here

If we had this whole entourage- we wouldn’t look so bad ourselves!! ;)

…to be continued…

“Make me beautiful”- Part 1

Thursday, January 10th, 2008

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In an article titled “The price of perfection” the author Marantz Henig gives an overview of the dangerous and mutilating treatments women have undergone in their quest for beauty.

“Over the centuries, women have mauled and manipulated just about every part of their bodies—lips, eyes, ears, waists, skulls, foreheads, feet—that did not fit into the cookie-cutter ideal of a particular era’s fashion. During the Renaissance, well-born European women plucked out hairs, one by one, from their natural hairline all the way back to the crowns of their heads, to give them the high rounded foreheads thought beautiful at the time…

In China right up until World War 2, upper-class girls had their feet bound, crippling them for life but
ensuring the three-or four- inch long feet that were prized as exquisitely feminine. (before it’s demise this practice persisted for more than one thousand years.) “My foot felt very painful at the start,” recalls one woman, whose account was recorded in The Tyranny of Beauty. “The heel of my foot became odiferous and deteriorated. Because of the pain in my foot, my whole body became emaciated. My face color changed and I couldn’t sleep at night.” But this woman put up with the agony, because she was convinced that “no one wanted to marry a woman with big feet.” In Central Africa, the Mangbettu tightly wrapped the heads of female infants in pieces of giraffe hide, to attain the elongated cone-shaped heads that were taken to be a sign of beauty and intelligence. (though that surely couldn’t have been aiding the intelligence of their brain!)

In the Elizabethan age many women, in search of skin that looked like porcelain, whitened their faces using ceruse, a potentially lethal combination of vinegar and lead. Queen Elizabeth herself used ceruse so consistently that it ultimately ate pits into her skin, causing her to pile the paint on in thicker and thicker layers in hopes of camouflaging her growing imperfections. This, in turn, only led to more corrosion, and the Virgin Queen’s face was ultimately so ravaged that she ordered all mirrors banned from the castle. It is said that her servants exploited the ban on mirrors in a wickedly mischievous way: Every morning they painted the Queen’s face white with ceruse, but they painted her nose “a cruel crimson.”

But, one factor has held relatively constant: most cultures, through the centuries, have wanted their women to be slim…

In England in 1665, a health pamphlet entitled “To reduce the body that is too fat to a mean and handsome proportion” noted that one handy technique for losing weight was bloodletting…women, according to this pamphlet, should be bled “largely, twice a year, the right arm in the spring, the left in the autumn”
In the 1930s women actually swallowed tapeworms to lose weight; the opera diva Maria Callas is said to have been one such desperate reducer. ”

Today women are driven more than ever before

Since before Cleopatra’s day, women have been judged by the way they look, and have struggled mightily to make themselves look the way they want to be judged…perhaps Elizabeth I was on to something after all. Maybe the only way for women to get on with things is to banish all mirrors from the castle.”

I could go on and on and tell you of numerous horror stories, but I brought up these examples to show that the pressure for perfection is nothing new!

The temptation to become absorbed with our physical appearance has always existed.

80 years ago girls would compare themselves with the other 10-15 girls in their town. Today women compare themselves to the pictures of the supermodels put on the by the world-wide fashion industry.

Women have always been susceptible to being totally preoccupied with the physical ideal as defined by the culture in which they live.

While authoress Robin Marantz Henig certainly outlines the problem for us…she offers no solution.

Why? Why are we so preoccupied by this quest for physical beauty?


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