Shoulders back and relaxed, body in one complete line, head upright eyes looking straight ahead.
Years ago every well-bred girl was given posture lessons. She learned how to move with smoothness of form, how to have a proper sense of dignity and self-respect. Even today, we send our little girls to dance school in hopes that they will grow up graceful young women rather than prima ballerinas.
“A rounded back, sagging shoulders and a drooping chin create an image of extreme lassitude, or discouragement with life…and of being ten years older than you really are.â€
-A Guide to Elegance
Listed below are The Top 3- If I can master these, I think I will be proficient in my carriage graces.
Sitting:
Knees and ankles together. It has only been a more recent change that even allowed women to cross their legs. It was previously seen as strictly a male position. It is now more generally accepted, but knees and ankles together is far more feminine. Good support for the spine, and spine gently in line.
Standing:
Too often when someone shouts “shoulders back†we overcorrect and in a matter of minutes start feeling sore muscle tension. I recently tried this exercise for straightening my shoulders with much success. Take a basic ruler and slide it underneath the straps of your shirt, sleeveless works best. With only 20-30 minutes a day I have found it very beneficial in straightening my should blades without causing undue strain.
Another excellent way to improve your posture as a lady is to have a fellow “posture enthusiast†record on a video camera your mobility during the day. Watching yourself can be very enlightening.
Walking:
Lets give you a new firm backbone in place of the few pieces of spaghetti you’ve been getting along with till now. Shoulders back, head high, facing the world! No more of this Slouching Sam or Potted Penelope!
Most women, when walking, are subconsciously looking down at the ground. Partly because we want to avoid tripping on anything, but the majority of the time it’s just habitual. If you can keep your head at eye level your stance will be improved dramatically. A fun way to check on your gait is to watch your mirrored image in store windows as you walk by. Check if you appear hunched forward (especially a tendency when wearing heels) or bent at the waist.
A few common pitfalls:
Group photos (3 or more), don’t lean in towards the center if you can help it. Your body is shifted out of proportion and it usually makes your stomach or hips appear enlarged.
Sitting on the floor, avoid Indian squat. It may be more comfortable, but it hunches your back, sags your shoulders and draws attention to your crotch area. All of which are far from modest or feminine.